The gift of Reiki energy healing has been immeasurably profound for me and my clients in every aspect of life, not the least of which is relationships.
I was teaching a lot about healing relationships and lo and behold, I had a meltdown. Something my partner said triggered an avalanche of emotions. Like little land mines, he had stepped too close to old feelings of being shut down or rejected, and I felt like a Mack truck had run over my chest.
When talking about it did not really release the hurt, my partner finally asked “What can I do?” “REIKI” I replied. He put his hands on me and the familiar calming energy instantly flowed through my being. Within minutes my heart ache subsided. Plus my partner was so relieved that he finally could offer something helpful! While I now teach other healing techniques, Reiki is still my go-to foundational healing modality personally and professionally.
Gratefully, with all the healing work I have done the emotional “land-mines” are fewer and far between. The good news is you do not have to be a professional energy healer to begin healing your relationships.
Reiki is Not Your Personal Energy
Healing relationships is possible even in the first level of Reiki. The attunement or initiation process hooks you up to universal life force energy, so you are not flowing your own personal energy. Even when you may feel upset or unclear, Reiki will come to the rescue.
It is a wonderful gift in any relationship to give each other treatments. It is a way of connecting deeply, without words, and there is no need to know what to say or do for someone in order to help them. Gratefully, there are no psychology degrees required here.
Reiki is a protected channel
This is really important, as I have encountered many other types of healers saying they are absorbing or taking on the negative energy of others, and even feeling their arms going numb or becoming painful. So if you are working with someone who is upset or sick, you are not using your own energy or personal ki (chi or life force) and therefore not at risk of mixing energies with someone else’s “stuff”.
The practitioner is also receiving the Reiki energy as he or she is delivering a treatment, so they are feeling better and more energized also.
Self-Treatment Goes to the Core
Even when you may not have a partner to give you a treatment, the beauty of Reiki is the ability to do “self-treatment”. Reiki can be applied by the practitioner immediately after the first degree class regardless of their experience.
This can smooth out any emotional upsets that arise, and empowers you to have unlimited access to a healing resource “at your fingertips”. Reiki goes to the core level of imbalance, and applied regularly can effectively shift life-long patterns and deepen self-love.
After my first marriage, I dug into the solace of Reiki to begin to clear the patterns within me that had attracted an angry partner who blamed me for much of the upsets. A client of mine who was a psychotherapist declared: “after any divorce you will need at least a year of weekly therapy to clear those abusive patterns and emotions.”
While I had used therapy in the past for relationship support, I now found for me, Reiki was equal to the task (and a heck of a lot more affordable). My partners since have been at a whole new level of kindness and willingness to take responsibility for doing the inner work, and even practicing self-healing with Reiki.
Situation Healing with Reiki
In Level II Reiki training, you learn to do distant healing to a person, as well as mental/emotional healings, and even send healing to any situation. As everything is energy or frequency, when difficulties arise, applying a higher frequency energy like Reiki can dissipate and release the lower vibrations of the problem.
So even if you are not able to work with someone else as they have not agreed to a Reiki session, you can send healing energy to uplift and harmonize your relationship with that person. For instance, if you are having difficulty with a colleague at work, you can ethically send Reiki to heal your situation with that person, so long as it is for the highest good of all and not using it to try to control another.
Healing Relationships Even When You’re Not in One
Scientists are finding more and more proof of the remarkable way our emotions can affect our immune system and overall health. Emotions that have not been fully resolved and released will continue to impact you on every level and can even affect your physical and mental health, not just your relationships.
I have done a lot of clearing with Reiki on my own negative patterns that have emerged after a breakup, with the awareness that if I didn’t want to keep attracting the same problems in another relationship I could do my part to release the “issues in my tissues.”
Reiki has allowed me and my clients to continue to do the personal work around relationships even when not in one, in order to clear the way for a more harmonious and supportive fit next time.
Relationships are Mirrors
Reiki treatments are a wonderful way to begin taking responsibility for our own energy and state of being. Relationships are often mirrors showing us aspects of ourselves, both positive and negative, for us to become more aware. Reiki will clear out the closets of any mental/emotional baggage that is keeping you from experiencing more fulfilling relationships.
There is a saying that “all healing is self-healing.” As you apply Reiki to all aspects of your relationships, you will find that you are surrounded more and more by people who value and appreciate you. And if you’re really lucky they also share Reiki with you too!
This blog was first published in 2012 and updated to as you read it now, in 2021.
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Hi Lindsay
Absolutely Reiki rocks on so many levels. I too have experienced the calm with panicky feelings both personally and with my clients! Glad you found Reiki and thanks for joining the converstion!
Radiant Blessings,
Kumari
My father practices reiki as part of a normal health routine and it is quite good in reducing stress. :
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Please can you send Manny lots of love, light healing, as he has suffered a stroke, and our relationship needs healing. I also have health issues. My name is Yasmin McCalla, and I am trying my best to help Manny get better, and to look after myself aswell. We have been together for 15 years, and we both love, each other very much. Thank you so much. Please can you send our relationship lots of love, light healing, and Manny himself lots of healing. Thank you so much.
Dear Manny and Yasmin
Thank you so much for writing in here and of course I will hold you both in my heart with healing prayers for you.
While positive thoughts are truly wonderful, Reiki is most effective when done directly with permission. Which is why I offer
Weekly Healing program for group Reiki and also distant Reiki for individuals.
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Much love and best wishes to you both!!
Kumari
my gf had some physical pain so without telling her i did reiki for her.bt then after i m doing reiki for betterment of our relationship i dont knw why it back fires.our relationship is almost at break up stage. pls help me what to do…dont wnt to loose her….ever
Dear Vishal
I am traveling in India but wanted to take a minute to respond. My first thought was to wonder why you sent Reiki without asking her, as I was taught to request permission. The reason I bring this up is that you said it backfired when you sent Reiki for your relationship. So it could be that she felt some form of intrusion if there was no permission? Also, as Reiki is Univeral Life energy, it is really not possible for it to actually backfire, however, it could bring deeper issues that were buried or not so visible to the surface, for more awareness and healing. Thus sometimes it does seem that applying healing energy such as Reiki is exacerbating the situation rather than allowing for greater healing (which means “wholing” or becoming more of a whole person). This often does not look the way we want it to look at first but it does always lead to greater harmony, awareness, balance and eventually healing if we stay with the process and accept and learn from the journey. I truly hope this helps you and that your relationship withstands the upsets if it is meant to be for both of your highest and best good, which can be hard to see in these momentsJ
Love
Kumari
Request continued Reiki healing for my relationship . Its been now day 3 where my husband is stopped speaking to me on both phones calls, messaging . I see only myself under sleepless nights under depression which is making me mad and weak day by day. He comes home everyday late in the night , does not think to share or speak to his wife and child who is been waiting for him. Hours to together he spends time on phone chatting with his sister. Full day he is out and with his family sister and parents .Still I dont see him having the guilt of his mistakes in mind or feeling . On his mobile i seen chat with some unknown nos , i suspect this to be another woman in his life. I pray to REiki healing and prayers that this suspect of mine should not be true. If this becomes true the family would be shattered to pieces which can’t be made or brought back again. I pray sincerely by my heart that this suspect should not be true that there is another woman in his life. I have spent 15 yrs of my life loving this person and 11 yrs of married life but i person whom i loved is not this person now and I see that there is no true love and affection from him what used to be there before. I am not sure if this is the true self of him or the past what i seen in this person years ago was his original personality. I have no one to share my problems or ask to for solutions. Under total depression in tears i am sharing this to my 6 yr old son who is not in complete understanding age to understand what his mother is going on . He also cannot support me . REiki is one hope where i can share my problems as one side by writing not sure when the Reiki healing would come true to solve by life issues. Still awaiting for my husband to get back to his family as a good father and husband to his wife with trust, love , affection and strong bonding . No external bad elements in his mind or at home should try invading into this bonding by breaking it . I pray sincere by heart still awaiting the REiki miracle to happen in my life to change things. With this hope also my child awaits everyday with me on a ray of hope saying today my dad would change and speak back to my mother normally. I dont want my strong belief of hope and my child’s expectation to be disappointed or let down. Please Reiki with your power of healing and miracle please get back the goodness of love and strong bonding where my husband understands realizes his mistake and comes back to me and my child asking for sorry. We await every night sleeplessly praying every moment for the solution to our current problem. Please heal REiki need your strong blessing of healing . Thank you Reiki , waiting for u!!
Dear simply savy
My heart goes out to you and your child in this challenging situation. While I totally believe in the power of prayer and healing energy, I also truly believe in the power of enlightened action. I pray that you find the support you need for your feelings of depression, and that you can take the highest best and most appropriate actions with your husband and your situation. You have the power, not to change another person, (though once we take charge of our own reactions, it does give others an opening at times to make their own changes easier) to change your situation and your reaction to it. Please promise me you will seek some professional help with an enlightened counselor or support group to help you navigate this dilemma, both for you and your child if this continues. I hold you as POWEFUL even though you may not feel so right now, to do the things that YOU need right now to maintain your health and balance, and to as sess the reality of the situation changing. You are a person of great faith and I am sending you lots of love.
My daughter in law N RADHIKA has a B.P.D problem.Has split personality behaviour throughout and has a habit of constantly fighting with her husband and all family members. Is a very big spendthrift and believes in high splurging . My Son has no peace at home due to this and is unable to perform his regular office work.
She thinks that the whole World is wrong and only she is right everytime.
Please help her overcome this situation.
Thanking you,
VIJAYSHREE N 12.03.16