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Are You Selfish or Enlightened?

December 18, 2013 by  
Filed under Blog, Developing Intuition

I was chatting with my soul-brother from the crystal bowl shop the other day about how our sense of service is shifting from a focus on selfless service (aka “fixing everyone else”) to focusing on our own growth and happiness (aka fixing your own house first”). He mentioned the emerging concept among spiritual thought leaders of “divine or enlightened self-interest” as the cornerstone of the evolving new consciousness.

Selfish_Word-590x606It is a great term to describe what I have been feeling for some time.  Yet it is not new.  Twenty five years ago, my first spiritual teacher was often given the suggestion (criticism actually) that the thousands of seekers gathering to learn meditation should be mobilized for more service projects. As a recovering “save the world” legal aid attorney, this seemed a compelling argument to me.

While the guru had already established service projects, she always responded the same:  “Do your own inner work; that is the highest service.” She continued that it is relatively easy to focus on what everyone else needs.  Yet it takes the greatest courage to “Know the Self”.  Go within.  It takes a true warrior to do battle with the ego, and become Enlightened.  Then, your very essence will uplift all humanity.

Many people believe self-interest is what gets in the way of enlightenment. We should, instead, live a life of selfless service.  But this can lead to a constant state of depletion and “never enough.”  Who is that actually serving?  It reminds me of a famous D.C. homeless activist I really admired who became so depressed he  committed suicide.  That woke me up.

Enlightened self-interest is becoming present and aware of what really energizes, motivates and inspires you.  Following your divine self-interest therefore aligns you with who you really are.  When you come into the present moment with your enlightened self-interest, you are in the flow.  It propels you forward in such a way that allows you to contribute your piece of the puzzle in this divine play of consciousness.  You then are truly are able to offer your authentic contribution to the world, which in turn inevitably leads to abundance, joy, and true fulfillment.

During the holidays it is easy to become pulled in a million directions with the needs and “shoulds” of others.  If you were to fully come into the present  and ask yourself what is it that you truly want to do that will inspire and uplift you, what would you do differently this holiday season?   How would you nurture and tend to yourself and your soul?

What a different world it would be if we all could make sure that our deepest desires for true connection, loving conversation, quiet reflection, and playful abandon, were no longer considered selfish.  If total exhaustion and depletion were no longer worn as a badge of the righteous, but were seen as the misguided reality that it is.  If we could recognize that this type of self-sacrifice, of risking our health and happiness to please others was not a gift to anyone.

How would our life shift if we knew that when we are stable, healthy, balanced and joyful, when our giving and receiving is in balance, then the cup of creativity and grace runneth over.

I challenge you to include yourself–mind, body and spirit– in this path of divine self-interest this year.  You may be amazed at how much you are actually “giving”.

With great love

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4 Responses to “Are You Selfish or Enlightened?”
  1. Jean Canale says:

    I LOVE this Kumari. Listening to other students and teachers of this human experience I am coming to this same realizations you share here! Thank you!!

  2. Kumari Mullin says:

    Jean, thanks for the reply…i think we grow in waves…so happy you and I are on the SAME WAVE:) Did it spur any fun and totally SELF-ish ideas??

  3. Catherine says:

    Thank You Kumari! I love Your share. It was helpful, inspirational and an affirmation of permission. Honoring self and soul. It took me some time to recognize this of caring and honoring, taking care of myself first. Especially as a mom. When a light bulb went off from within, through trials and tribulation. As with All of at one point or another. I remembered something about how when we fly, the airline attendants always tell us as parents to use the oxygen mask first when we are traveling with our children, in the event something would happen. Give to ourselves first, then to our children. That made so much sense to me. I understood why? For if we go down, then how can we help our children. Aha! A metaphor which holds much light in what you are expressing in Helping anyone . If we are depleted, well we know…. This far, for in my case. I realized how much more if an inspiration and an example I will be for and too my daughter and others in a much healthier way. Walking my talk. Thank You Again for All that You do!
    Much Love and Light too You!

  4. Kumari Mullin says:

    Catherine- YES i hereby grant you PERMISSION to honor and nurture your self…i too have needed this.
    And i actually wrote in the first draft the bit about hte oxygen mask !!! That is a perfect demonstration of this principle of enlightened self interest truly being the highest service…
    THank you so much for your sharing; i am cure it will help many others!
    Happy happy holidays!

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